• Mel

Failing Goals and Getting Back on Track

Shout out to 2020 here for being so damn extra that I'm pretty sure I actually got whiplash just trying to live my life.

It's not one step forward, two steps back anymore.

Nope. It's one step forward, just kidding that's a trigger plate, better run like Indiana Jones. Need a hand? Sorry, can't help you - I don't want your germs.


If you're anything like me your productivity has plummeted, your typically optimistic outlook has tanked, and your goals? Wait... you had goals?

Same here, sister.

But that's not where I'm going to stay, and I hope you don't linger there long either. Because 2020, the year that lasted five years, shouldn't suck anymore of your soul than it already has. This is going to come to an end. Personally, I don't want to look back feel like I lost a year of my life.

So here's how we're going to get back on track.

Focus on a Single Goal

I know, I know, I have a bazillion goals too! I'm not saying abandon them all right now. I'm saying, clearly you haven't gotten off of your butt for any of them recently. So stop letting your brain spin in circles about all the areas you think you're failing in. Pick one. Just one. We can add the others back in once we're on a roll.

Get Inspired

Magic happens when we get inspired. True magic. Creativity begins to flow and excitement pumps through our veins. Suddenly, what felt so out of reach becomes plannable, attainable, and achievable!

So guess what your homework is right now? Go find that inspiration. Google, Pinterest, read, find someone who has done exactly what you want to achieve, anything, just go learn. Realize that your goals are not only possible, they are within your grasp! Just stretch those fingertips and reach for them!

Let your inspiration pull your head above the dreary clouds.

Plan. Plan. Plan

You'll want to start immediately. I know. I do too. Every time. I set my goal to lose the "COVID-15" I've gained, so I go workout immediately - feel proud of myself and then... that was as far as my plan got. So I lose that motivation I found... again. What a rookie.

So I'm going to encourage you to do it a little differently this time. Instead of jumping right in. Take that inspiration and plan on how you will get there. Pick your start date and commit to it fully. Take this time to get pumped about what you'll accomplish.

Your plan will vary widely because your goals are likely not the same as mine. But with my plan - of losing the extra weight I've accumulated - it will include everything from meal plans and workout routines, to daily routines that will help my days run a little smoother so I don't fail because I don't have the time to do my plan.

One thing to keep in mind here, we're focusing on realistic timelines of achieving goals also. Don't set yourself up for failure by trying to lose weight on a 500 calorie a day plan. Its not sustainable, its not healthy, and you'll drive yourself insane trying to do it.

As much as I want to reach my goals, I want my life right now to be filled with joy as well. I will not waste any time making myself truly miserable. There is a difference between struggle and starvation.

Baby Steps

Again, I have this not-so-brilliant tendency of starting off without a plan and with massive action that hasn't been thought through. For some people this works. If that works for you - and it really works long term - then by all means, do that.

But if that isn't your cup of tea, and be honest with yourself here, then take baby steps.

For instance, to reach my health goals I don't need to become a chef overnight, commit to green smoothies every single day, while also starting a workout regime that leaves me too sore to lift my 8 month old tank. I can tell you right now, I'll quit by the first weekend.

So here is what I'll do instead: I will commit to 15 minutes of exercise every day for the first week. No matter what, I can reach that micro goal. Once I get started, its a rare day that I will actually stop after that miniscule 15 minutes. It is just enough time to get my blood flowing and motivate me to keep going.

Even on my worst days, after the kids are asleep, 15 minutes is nothing. I can accomplish that. Once I've successfully hit that micro goal for a week I can increase it or add others.

Start out with low chances of failure and give yourself small wins to celebrate along the way - bonus!

Get Started

The most powerful piece. Getting started. One step in front of the other. Put those plans to action. It doesn't matter how beautiful your plans are if you never take that first step. So just do it.

Cut Out the Negative BS

You've planned it all out, you've started achieving your goals - then without invitation that old Negative Nancy creeps into your thoughts. She tells you things that no decent person would tell you. That you'll never make it, that you aren't doing it right, that you aren't good enough.

I know her well, my friend, I know her well.

Figure out how to get her scabby little paws off of you as quickly as possible. We don't need that kind of negativity in our lives.

Have a source of healthy inspiration ready for you whenever you need it, in whatever form you choose.

Is it a person who has already achieved the same goal you're after? Is it a Tony Robbins book? Is it a blog you found? Is it inspirational quotes on Pinterest?

It doesn't matter what does it for you, just have it at the ready. Because Negative Nancy needs to go. Like, yesterday. Don't let her take up another ounce of your headspace because honestly, there isn't room for both Rona and Nancy in your life.

Never Miss a Monday

Make it a rule. Right now. Whatever your goal is, never skip Monday.

There will be times when you cannot bring yourself to accomplish even the smallest of goals. Hopefully its not the first micro goal you've set - but even if it is, never let it be on a Monday.

Something inside shifts when you start the week out on the right foot. You know what I'm talking about here. When you've prepared and you're actually ready to tackle the work week (or school week for SAHMs). You're more productive, more creative, and more confident. You know you've set yourself up for success, so unless a curve ball is thrown at you - you actually have a better week!

The same goes for hitting your goals on Monday. Its like mentally preparing yourself for the week ahead. You've started off hot and are much more likely to stay ahead in the game.

As much as I'd like the rule to be never miss a single day, that just isn't realistic. But Mondays are especially important. Don't miss them.

You can do anything for a short period of time. I promise you'll feel better once you've hit that daily goal.

You've got this, I know you do.

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